I vote for “NONE“!
Have you ever been screwed over by a bullying cult or a manipulative person?
Being inspired by a comment from my friend Dragos where he dropped THE question most people don’t dare to ask. I have included both the question and my answer as this topic deserved a post of its own. I have added some more on cult recovery to my answer below.
PS. About Scientology, Anette, there is something I don’t understand: what exactly made you to attend them. What could be so mesmerizing to catch a person so rational as you?
WOW, Dragos. Cool you got the balls to ask. I have been asking myself THAT EXACT question every day since a few years now. What the fuck happened? How could I be so stupid? Why didn’t I just leave rather than have my life destroyed? Of course I sensed something was wrong early. But what made me justify it turning the blind eye?
There are as many questions as there are answers.
And the answers vary from person to person.
NO ONE JOINS A CULT!
The cult is getting YOU, gradually.
To sum it up: It’s easy to get in, and it’s hard to get out.
The same goes for a relationship with a sociopath. I have been in both so I know what I am talking about. The Stockholm Syndrome / Battered Person Syndrome is in full play.
And there is this phenomenon of being pot committed. If you know poker you know what I mean.
I have written over 750 notes in my diary so far. I will share many of them here to shed some light on the different stages a person goes through when encountering a cult or a sociopath. There are so many traits in common between those two it’s fascinating to say the least.
I will also share what I have been going through during my own recovery process both before and after leaving a cult and an abusive relationship. Many suffer from Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) after such long periods of mental and spiritual distress. If you find yourself in shock, grief or numbness you are not alone. It has been a long dark journey getting my life back together.
What to do?
I recommend you get all the information you can get on those topics. Start googling Psychopath, Narcissist, Cult, Mind Control etc., read books, educate yourself, participate in forums or self-help-groups. It will make you stronger. I will give you some book reviews here of recommended books that have helped me. I suggest you start reading the wiki entries I’ve linked to in this post, that might inspire you to move and improve.
I’m not at my peak yet but I’m heading there. Stay strong.
Not all wounds are visible. I feel lucky to be alive. Not all were that fortunate.
“Nobody sets out to join a cult. No one knowingly wants to give up their life, their needs, their goals. They come to believe they’re improving themselves and improving the world and it is then they are led into a psychological trap. It could happen to anybody.” ~ Steve Hassan, Leading American Exit-Counselor
Thank you for reading this post. I would love to hear what you think. You are welcome to ask me any question. Feel free to use the comment form below. Have a nice cult-free day.